Showing posts with label Malay marriages and weddings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Malay marriages and weddings. Show all posts

Tuesday, 25 June 2013

Wedding Anniversary

June is a special month. June is also my wedding anniversary. I got married tonight but 30 years ago. This year is my 30th wedding anniversary. I was reading Quran this morning after my Subuh prayer and other prayers. Then our youngest daughter came to our room to inform my father-in-law has arrived. I was reading the last line for today's Quran reading. Affandi went first to attend to his father. I completed reading the last line and its interpretation, made my doa and went to wash my hands with soap and water. I then went to the living-room to salam my father-in-law. He's 84 years old and sadly, he was crying, sitting next to Affandi. He said in a sad tone, and salam me, saying "Maafkan Ayah, Dah .... maafkan Ayah banyak..." I was startled. I didn't say anything but just let him speak his mind. I didn't quite understand what he was trying to say except I understood "maaf" (sorry). I then prepared English breakfast for him and Affandi. I made Knorr mushroom soup because everyone in my household loves mushroom soup for breakfast. I then cut slices of French bread and applied olive oil margarine, while Ayah continued to talk to us at the breakfast table. But still, I hardly understood his sadness - why was he so very sad? We finished breakfast and as I was cleaning up the breakfast table, again Ayah said, "Maafkan Ayah, Dah .... maafkan Ayah banyak ..." and offered his hand to salam me. I returned the gesture and continued clearing the breakfast table, fast since we have to leave for work. I was thinking to myself, maybe Ayah has a lot of problems which I can't understand right now. He just got married earlier this year and I don't understand how problems can crop up this soon. What sort of problems? So, I don't know the real problem that Ayah has. Anyway, since it is my wedding anniversary, I am thankful to Allah SWT for keeping me still married to the man I married 30 years ago when I was 24. We are both the same age (he's 9 months older) and the same height (very short) but we differ very much in attainment of faith. I am lagging behind but I am catching up. The 6 kids we have are all grown up and doing fine, Alhamdulillah. I am glad I am not that nagging mother and ungrateful wife. Best of all, I am myself and I love my life for as long as I live on this Earth. I am happy as I am.

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Wild flowers in my grandfather's garden in Penang

Sunday, 3 June 2012

Malay Marriages and Weddings

Now I will do the weddings of the early Malay doctors, their grandparents, parents, children, relatives, peers and friends. The photos were sent to me over many years. Some related stories, some also wrote stories, anecdotes, etc. You can still send your wedding photos and I can upload them here in this blog. If you are sending photos or video links, please provide some details (state your name, whose wedding, date of wedding, wedding venue, etc). In the meantime, take a look at this wedding video taken at the E&O. YouTube wedding video: Wedding of CJ & Steph, Garden Wedding at E&O

TIMELINE

I will need to search for at least 43 wedding photos... need to arrange first...will take some time, as I now have editing to do for about 1 month.

HOW TO CREATE WEDDING PHOTOS WITH PHOTO EFFECTS

Most are composite photos as wedding photos are not available for many of the doctors. I worked in PowerPoint, where I combined 2 photos and used overlay and repeat techniques. I used 2 programs to add the photo effects - MyScrapNook (for frames when necessary), and Pixlr-o-matic (for the film reel effect). I don't have Adobe Photoshop and Aldus Freehand.

WHAT IS KNOWN ABOUT THE EARLY MALAY DOCTORS

Most biographies have no date(s) of marriage(s) stated. They can be approximated from the DOB of the first child. Some of the names of the wives were unknown and only call names were known.
  1. Dr Abdul Aziz married Wan Sharihah bt Haji Ashaari from Kedah and then Zaleha from Singapore.
  2. Nawab Din married Raj Bee; Zainab Bee married Akram; Dr Abdul Karim bin Nawab Din married Bismillah Begum bte Munawar, the eldest daughter of Hafiz Ghulam Sarwar.
  3. Dato' Setia Abdul Razak married Puan Saleha; they were the parents of Dr Abdul Latiff. 
  4. Tan Sri Abdul Majid married Puan Sri To’ Puan Khairany bt Mahyuddin (in early 1950s).
  5. Dr Abdul Wahab Khan bin Muhammad Lal Khan married Fatimah Bee bte Dustagoer Hussain at her residence in 124, Langkawi Road in Kelawei District in Penang, then a British Settlement, on 17 June 1938.

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Dr Abdul Latiff bin Abdul Razak married Che Safiah bt Sulong in 1910.
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Dr Abdul Wahab Khan bin Muhammad Lal Khan married Fatimah Bee bte Dustagoer Hussain in Penang in 1938.
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Dr Haji Abbas married Zawyah bt Ibrahim in 1939; remarried in 1939 to Shareah bt Mohd Taib.
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Tan Sri Abdul Majid married Puan Sri To’ Puan Khairany bt Mahyuddin in early 1950s. Their eldest son Aljafri Majid was born at home in 1952.
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Dr Abdul Wahab married Datin Intan bte Haji Mustapha @ Tan Kim Poh in 1952.
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Dr Haji Abbas married Azizah bt Hassan in 1957.
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Professor Dr Nik Abdullah (anaesthesiologist) daughter's wedding in 2012.


Islamic prayer for the newly weds from Surah ar-Rum: 21
Invitation note from a Malay doctor's family
2013
Dr Mustaffa Musa (immunologist) son's wedding reception in 2013.



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